Every Fall I escape all parental and spousal responsibilities for a couple of days. A friend of mine and I jump in the car and had south for our annual Girls Road Trip.
For me, it’s really an escape back to me, the me I was before becoming a wife and mother amongst other things. For the past 2 days, I have been so calm. I have not become frustrated or short tempered or upset or angry or bitchy or yelled or felt anxious at all. All feelings that are a daily occurrence in my “reality” life.
I have laughed a genuine laugh and smiled a lot. I have been completely peaceful, nothing bothers me. Life is good. I have been the person I used to be. I wish I knew how to be this in my own home. I wish my kids could see this version of me or I could be this version for them. I apologized to my husband that he no longer has this version of his wife because I don’t know how to be her in our life anymore.
The thought of going home in a couple of days scares me. I know the re-entry into my every day life is going to be very tough. I don’t want to go back to that person. I don’t like that version but I know she is waiting for me as soon as I step inside that door. That makes me very sad.
Even the drama and bullshit with P. doesn’t even bother me right now. It doesn’t consume me at all. That tells me that he is my escape from my life and when expectations aren’t met there, it justs adds more crap on my shoulders, mind and heart. But right now, in my current state of mind, I don’t care what he does or doesn’t do because I’m at peace while I’m here, away from the chaos of my life. This escape is far better than the one I searched for in P.
All of this leads me to believe that I need to make a change one way or another. I don’t know what that change is or what I need to do. But I need to be able to take this version of me back home and somehow figure out how to keep her in my everyday life. I just don’t know how to do that. 😦
I spent 10 long years in a horrible, abusive relationship. I longed for the life I have now…one of safety and security with a man that is emotionally stable and financially responsible, doesn’t have anger management or rage issues or addiction problems.
I need to remember that when I’m feeling unsatisfied with my life. Out there, there is someone like I once was longing for this life. I shouldn’t take it for granted.
Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life. A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home. That’s life!! Enjoy yours… If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets. But only poor kids do that. If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded. But those who live simply, sleep soundly. If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages. Live simply. Walk humbly and love genuinely..! All good will come back to you. Dr. Ben Carson
I’m sitting in Paneras enjoying a nice cup of coffee, escaping life even if just for a moment. Just a moment to be myself, feel the real me for fleeting moment.
What am I escaping? Roles that don’t seem to fit very well….wife and mother. I feel trapped by my life. The thought of leaving my cozy corner and going home is depressing and overwhelming. But it is my life and I have 3 children that love me unconditionally …why they do, I’ll never understand.
This weekend I was watching a movie. In the movie was a woman full of life. When she smiled, her face lit up. Her laughter was contagious. Even in the scenes when she wasn’t smiling, happiness radiated off her. She seemed so confident and carefree. I want to be her.
The woman in the movie was me. That movie was a home movie of my husband and I before we were married, before we even moved into together, before we had children…before we were watered down. A time when we were “Juice Concentrate” .
I watched her, wondering what happened? Where did she go? Where did that loving couple go that was in the movie? How did we go from light to dark? More importantly can we get that back?
I don’t know. I just don’t know. How does any relationship survive the watered down effect of life? How do you stay strong as a couple when the distractions of children, work, a house threatening to drown the love you once shared? Can we be saved?
Over the last 2 months, I’ve lost some emotional weight. As with body weight, one has to work at keeping off the emotional weight or it can creep back on….unless you are one of those lucky people with a super high “happy” metabolism. You guys are inspiring.
Yesterday I had a rough day. Today didn’t really start off any better. I’m starting to feel the emotional weight coming back on. I’ve worked pretty hard to lose that weight and I don’t want it back.